How old were you and the hubs when you had Elyott?
Adam and i were friends in high school. P.W.S.T (Pals With Sexual Tension, but only pals nevertheless.) We always dated other people, but somehow ended up going to homecoming together most years (you know, as friends). He told me in General business class he was gonna marry me someday. I told him he was dumb and his breath smelled (i was such a brat.). He told me "you'll see". It's these conversations that really started to lay the romantic foundation we have today ;) We randomly made out one time before we graduated and we went our separate ways to college. A couple semesters later we were still friends via sporadic telephone calls (all from him to me, i always had a strict "no calling boys policy" that he never agreed with...but guess what?? it worked sucka!). We made out one more time when he came to visit me at ASU and we were hooked. (yadi yadi yadda, skip ahead about 2 years...)
We got married at 19 (me) and 20 (him). And had our sweet Elyott (eh eghm...) 4 months later! I do not recommend this (referring to the timing, not the kid :) To me, my wedding was quite honestly, a disaster. I felt overwhelmed by our families and completely disoriented. Adam and i knew we were crazy about each other, but at that age I was so impressionable and unaccustomed to standing up for what i felt was best (which was take some time to get my bearings). Before long, we were thrust into parenting life before we even knew what hit us.
Times were hard before we found our rhythm, but we powered through and were able to beat the odds. Adam is my most FAVORITE friend of all time! and such a great companion for me. I love him. like a lot. Plus he's hot. We figure out parenting and being in love day by day, just like everyone else. It's been 8 years of marriage and we are SO stoked to be together. Sometimes I forget how hard it felt in the beginning, because now (and i hate to sound trite) it is such an amazing experience to have under my belt. It was crazy, but we gained SO much faith in Heavenly Father's plan for us, LOVE and some good healthy perspective!
"Blammo!" is what we like to say to the naysayers from long ago...
"We are the Dikes and we are nailing it!"
team boo ♥'s you
(BTW i stole that last line from Reagan who's family is also, so i've read, "nailing it")
5 comments:
I love that you shared that! Great for you to come out of it stronger and better! I got married when I was 18, one month shy of 19, and my hubby was 22. Then 2 years later we had my daughter when I was 20. Everyone thought we were crazy but here we are 6 years later making it work. Thanks for sharing! :) You are great!
I love that Adam told you you guys would get married and what you said back...maybeee this was all his master plannn?? ehmmmmm what? just kiddingggg, but thanks for sharing, i know it's personal and i'm sorry you didn't get the wedding you wanted but you have the marriage most people dream of and maybe you can pull a "modern family" and do a "real" wedding with the kids later on........i don't know what i'm sayin here...shhh
You guys are the cutest!
I am not sure how I ran into your blog, but you have such a witty adorable writing style. I enjoy reading; hope you don't mind :)
jillian
Ok then now I have to know if you guys are Mormons who fell off the wagon for a time? I remember seeing something about you decorating a cultural hall for christmas or something. It's funny how perspectives are so different. My husband and I are the only LDS in our family and when we announced that at 21 we were getting married, our families gave us so much pressure to live with eachother first and date for a long time. They didn't support our ONE YEAR engagement...too short for them...haha! At our reception someone actually told us we won't last a year...Ten years later...they can stuff it!! It's even funnier because the person who said that is now divorced themself! Congrats on nailing it!
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